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Roommates: Dealing with Conflict

Release Date:
9/10/2012 9:00 AM

Having issues with your roommates is a natural thing that happens when you come to college. Most of the time, you are living in very close proximity with someone who you have just met. You both have different schedules, hobbies, friends and interests. There is bound to be a time where you will disagree, but it’s how you handle these disagreements that will determine what your living experience will be like. Here are a few tips to help you get through those rough patches with your roommate:

  • Be Honest: If you have a problem with something that your roommate is doing, let them know. Don’t assume that they know when you are angry or uncomfortable! Talk to them and help them understand where you are coming from.
  • Be Respectful: If a problem does ever arise between you and your roommate talk to each other in a respectful manner. Don’t resort to name calling or yelling. Civilized conversations will go a lot further.
  • Be Willing to Compromise: You won’t always be able to get everything you want. But you can come to an agreement where you both get something out of it. Make it mutually beneficial for the both of you seeing as you will have to live together.
  • Get a Resident Assistant involved: If you and your roommate have tried talking and nothing is working it’s okay to go to your RA for help. This doesn’t mean go to your RA before you try to work things out with your roommate but know they are a resource that is meant to help you.
College is supposed to be some of the best four years of your life. The first step towards this happiness is to have a good relationship with your roommate. You don’t have to be the best of friends, but you do have to get along and live together. So if you are having a tough time getting along, remember these types and know that it will always get better!